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Are You Longing for More Fulfillment in Your Relationships?
Do you ever find yourself missing the spiritual fulfillment you know in solitude—when you're with people who are talking?
Ever leave conversations feeling drained, disappointed, or more lonely—still hungering for real connection?
Wish you knew how to relate more from your essence—instead of losing yourself in automatic patterns?
Wish you could experience the same presence and flow you know in solitude—while being with others?
Ever feel like you have to choose between feeling connected with your essence, or having relationships?
What if you didn't have to choose between spiritual depth and relationships?
A Truth About Awakening and Relationships
Many people, even those who've experienced profound realization, can feel disoriented or
unmet in the company of others, and quietly wonder, “Is there a place for me here?”
If this sounds familiar, know that you are far from being alone, and it doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. It’s an invitation.
When the love of truth longs to permeate our lives completely, it's natural to feel out of place in situations that don't offer the authenticity, depth, or the quiet wisdom of the present moment, that you may know in solitude.
Essence Relating was created for all those who feel this way. It's a space to bring your longing for deep connection, to slow down, and explore how essence moves—not just within us, but between and through us.
When you relate from essence to essence, you open a doorway into deeper fulfillment, greater freedom, and a more nourishing way of being, while with "others."
This opens the door for trhivingh more in your relationships, group gatherings, professional collaborations, community connections, and yes, even embodied awakening.
Let's Discover What's Possible for You
Embody Your Essence in Connection
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Experience the unique potency of being witnessed in your essential nature
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Connect while sharing what arises naturally from presence rather than personality, thought activity, or stories
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Be seen and recognized for who you are beyond thought patterns and conditioning
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Feel nourished by the fresh aliveness that emerges when essence meets essence
Shift Your Limiting Patterns
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Release unconscious social conditioning and survival-based strategies
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Gently shift from caretaking, performing, or people-pleasing toward more authentic expression
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Learn new ways of being present that honor both your deepest self and others
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Cultivate your social nervous system for deeper, ongoing ease and connection beyond the meetings
Enjoy Deep Fulfillment with Others
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Discover a new fulfillment with others that equals what you’ve known in solitude
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Experience full-bodied presence and shared flow—in connection with those around you
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Enjoy the aliveness of others without losing yourself
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Flourish in the freedom of relating from essence to essence in more of your relationships
“I don’t think I have ever felt this at peace in a circle of people.” ~ Danae Yume Shanti
(Spiritual mentor and community music inspirer)
What Happens in an Essence Relating Circle?
Whether you’re just beginning to explore presence in connection, have years of experience with authentic relating, or have touched deep spiritual realization—Essence Relating offers an opportunity to discover something completely fresh.
Most social interactions play out from personality to personality through what we could call “mind activity”—thoughts, stories, beliefs, and opinions. In contrast, Essence Relating invites something deeper. Rather than relating from what we think, we relate from essence to essence—from what we are.
This becomes possible by slowing down and dropping into our own fulfillment first. From this foundation of inner fulfillment, we can be fed naturally by our connection with essence—rather than trying to get it from others—which paradoxically, often blocks the very connection we long for.
Essence Relating takes authentic relating practice to the next level. By following a specific three-tier approach, it leverages powerful elements from the Embodied Presence Process, Somatic Experiencing, and the traditional Native American talking-stick practice.
These carefully sequenced processes help us shift from the habitual “reporting” of mind activity into the aliveness of sharing—through silence or speaking—from our essential nature.
“There is a difference between trying to be present and actually being present. Robear’s work is all about the latter.” ~ Kimberly Jonas (Reiki Master and Founder of BodyMantra)
3 Reasons Why I Recommend Essence Relating
Reason 1: Practice for Living Awake
Essence Relating provides a supportive container where you can practice embodying awareness and conscious self-care while in connection with others. And since it facilitates relating from essence to essence rather than personality to personality, it can help you deepen and embody awakened awareness in ways that aren’t possible in solitude.
Reason 2: Support for Integrating Awakening
Living awake isn’t something that happens only when life is easy or still and then disappears when you interact with people. Essence Relating helps you integrate the richness and equanimity you’ve experienced in solitude into the field of relationship. In this way, relationship becomes a potent crucible for deepening and embodying more awakened insight.
Reason 3: Bridging the Potency of Solitude with Connection
What if you didn’t have to choose between the fulfillment you know when you're alone with Presence, and the people who matter to you? Through Essence Relating, you can bridge the spiritual potency of your solitude with the equally potent but different flavor of essence-to-essence connection.
“When I knew I could be silent, wouldn't be interrupted, wouldn't take up too much time, and didn't have to take care of anyone—it was such a relief. I could actually feel the layers of social conditioning falling away...
until only essence remained.”
~ Robear
5 Ways Essence Relating Brings Something Fresh
1. Relating Essence to Essence
Essence Relating is simultaneously a presence practice and a relating practice. With aspects of the Embodied Presence Process as the foundation, it creates something entirely different from either traditional therapy-style sharing or even authentic relating.
2. Nourishing Codependence into Interdependence
Because the format supports you to drop into your own fulfillment before connecting—and relate at a pace that doesn’t “pull you out of yourself,” Essence Relating has been shown to be an effective way to liberate practitioners from the confusion and suffering of learned, unconscious codependent behavior—into the freedom and fulfillment of more nourishing relating habits.
This happens through the gentle, gradual transformation of your relational nervous system, and by practicing a new way of being with others—a far more effective approach than simply trying to stop old habits.
3. Deepening Through Structure
5Alive is a five-minute container we use to support going beneath our habitual ways of relating. With 5Alive you know that you:
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Can be silent if you want to
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Won’t be interrupted
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Can take your time
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Won’t take up too much time
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Don’t have to take care of anyone else
4. Transforming Through Collective Witnessing
When essence-to-essence relating unfolds in the presence of others who are aligned and curious, insights deepen. As you witness the breakthroughs of "others," you may discover blind spots in your own relational patterns or recognize unconscious social conditioning that you also share.
Being witnessed in your own process allows the shifts you experience to land in the “unconscious muscle memory” of your relational nervous system. In this way, the collective field becomes a kind of medicine, where each person’s transformation nourishes the whole.
5. Bringing Essence into Daily Life
Because Essence Relating follows a learnable structure, it’s not limited to the meeting space. As you become more familiar with the practice, you’ll find it becoming part of your daily life—allowing the connection, presence, and ease you experience in the circle to extend into conversations, relationships, and even moments of challenge.
With enough practice, the embodied awareness muscles you build in the supportive space of the meetings can carry over into the wider world—bringing the safety you know as your own essence into places that don't offer the same kind of support.
How to Step into Essence Relating
Step 1. RSVP to Join a Circle
Reserve your spot. No experience needed—just a willingness to explore.
Step 2. Show Up and Rest in Essence, Together
Be guided into a space where silence, presence, and authenticity are honored.
Step 3. Bring Essence Relating into Your Life
Use the simple guidelines to explore with people you trust—and invite them in.
What Becomes Possible — In Their Own Words
To honor client privacy, some photographs are representative and do not depict the individuals quoted. Those images have been thoughtfully chosen to reflect each person’s unique characteristics and spirit.
“Essence Relating provided a space where I could explore the myriad of my socialized beliefs and messaging… After a few sessions, I experienced how I could remain present with myself while interacting with others. Eventually, I experienced myself as one member of a group in Presence—and there I found Humanity.”
Eve B.
“Essence Relating is a powerful and helpful way to connect authentically with others and support each other. I see it as a potent gift we can use to contribute positively to the evolution of our species and emerging collective consciousness.”
Greg “Saddiq” Cortopassi
Catalyst for personal, group, and organizational transformation
Meeting Details
Days: 2nd and 4th Thursdays
Time: 6:00–8:00pm
Location: Robear’s home in South Boulder (Address provided upon RSVP)
Online Option: A virtual option will be offered when there is enough sincere interest. Click here to cast your vote and get on the waitlist.
Contribution: $15 - $25 Suggested Donation. Pay at the door. Cash or Venmo. No one will be turned away for lack of funds. Please contribute what you can while honoring the value you receive. Your support helps provide this offering to the community.
RSVP to Reserve Your Spot. Please Contact Us by 4:00pm on the day of the meeting so we can prepare enough seating.
Community Care Reminder
If you are feeling unwell, please rest and join us again when you're healthy. Thank you for caring for the community.
What to Expect
You'll be welcomed into our sanctuary with presence and gratitude. As you enter, if you need to speak, please do so softly, slowly, and sparingly to support the depth of our container.
5:30 Doors Open
5:45 Arrival - Doors close at 6:00 to support the integrity of the space.
6:00 Welcome and Orientation - Essence Relating process instruction and guidelines • Guided Embodied Presence process • Essence Relating warm-up • 5Alive demonstration
6:15 Essence - Personal practice and inner listening • Sharing beyond stories and social conditioning • Discovering what happens when essence leads
7:00 Relating - Dyad or triad demonstration • Witnessing and relating essence to essence together • Inquiring into the group relational field • Naming and exploring what feels natural and alive
7:45 Closing - Sharing impact • Announcements (if any)
8:00 Departure
Join Us for this Unique Experience
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Learn the simple but profound three-tier process
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Discover a new way of being that honors both your essence and others'
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Connect with like-intentioned people
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Leave with tools to bring your spiritual depth into relationship
Feeling Called to Go Deep with Someone Important to You, or One-on-One?
If you’re drawn to explore Essence Relating more intimately, reach out from a complimentary consultation to see how private sessions can support your unique needs.
Available for individuals, couples, collaborators, or community members, these practical, body-centered, direct-experience based sessions are particularly potent for relational growth and mutual transformation.